It’s been a while since I wrote about my journey to becoming a stay-at-home Mom. It’s time to continue this series for you and for me!
Case in point. Our life. I’ve always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. Before we were married, my husband and I decided that I would stay home with any children God blessed us with. We made the decision early on. We started planning early – paying off debt, saving money in our emergency fund and stockpiling diapers. When we became pregnant with Nathan, the planning kicked into high gear.
We set aside money to pay all our insurance bills for the delivery. Since we were on a high-deductible plan, we knew what the maximum expense would be. It ended up being a huge blessing since we didn’t expect my c-section or Nathan’s NICU stay. It was a relief to not worry about extra hospital bills since we had planned ahead. I continued stockpiling diapers. We reworked our budget.
When I was younger, I always planned that I would stay home with my baby – and nothing else. That’s not quite how it happened for us. I planned to stop teaching preschool once the baby was born. Then, I was offered the opportunity to continue teaching music two afternoons a week at our Lutheran school. Since I had a mother-in-law who was willing and eager to watch the baby for free, Andy and I decided that I would continue teaching part-time. It allowed us a bit more wiggle room in our budget as we worked towards fully funding our emergency fund and paying for house projects. Since I was already at school two afternoons a week, I continued to teach piano lessons after school for some extra money in our budget. Again, I didn’t expect to continue this but the pieces just fell into place.
At the end of this year, I realized that while I enjoyed teaching music, I was really ready to become a full-time stay-at-home Mom. Teaching music was taking me away from Nathan quite a bit. He was growing so quickly and I didn’t want to miss the time with him. Once again, God answered those prayers suddenly when another, incredibly qualified teacher accepted a position at our school, and was interested and eager to take over my music position.
This year, for the first time in 12 years, I am not teaching. I am officially a SAHM! Our budget is a lot tighter without my part-time salary but we’re determined to make it work. I’m still going to teach some piano lessons while my mother-in-law watches Nathan two afternoons a week, but it’s a different kind of teaching.
You can plan for years and years to become a sahm but eventually, you have to just do it! Now is my time to do it. It’s a little overwhelming but also wonderfully exciting.
I continue to give thanks for how God has worked all the pieces out along the way. My journey to become a wife and a mom hasn’t unfolded as I imagined, but it unfolded just as God knew it would.
My encouragement for all you moms are considering becoming a SAHM is this. Pray about it and plan carefully, and then just do it! As Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Fellow mothers, what encouragement and advice do you have for me – and other moms – who are ready to jump in and begin our job of stay-at-home moms? Let’s encourage one another!