I recently shared our wonderful news that we’re expecting again! We’re beyond delighted at this gift from God. That said, I can now freely admit that my first trimester wore me out. I was not my typical, energetic self. I was in a slump.
I was queasy quite a bit and nothing sounded good to eat except Triscuits. I found myself cooking separate meals for my husband, myself and my son – something that I never intended to or wanted to do.
I was tired and dozed off more than once as I lay on the couch and watched Nathan play. Thankfully, Nathan plays well by himself and I could put up the baby gate to keep him in the same room as me.
We were those parents who were adamant our son not have screen time his first year, and now I found my pregnant self turning on Daniel Tiger so I could quiet my active son – if only for 30 minutes.
I stayed caught up on the laundry but once folded, it sat in piles on the basement floor. It took me several days to complete the simple task of finishing putting it away.
My to-do list sat quiet. I wasn’t adding to it and I wasn’t crossing things off. It just sat.
What do you do when you’re in a slump like this? You may not currently be pregnant but I know you can all relate. Maybe you’ve been in a slump due to illness or an unexpected life change. Maybe you’re in a slump due to a busy time at work or because you’re adjusting to family changes at home. Maybe there is no rhyme or reason, but you’re just in a slump. What do you do?
As I pondered this question over these past weeks, I came to several conclusions.
First and foremost, give yourself grace.
No, you may not be doing things as you typically would but for a couple of days (or weeks), that is okay. Challenges in life mean adapting. Give yourself grace as you do just that and adapt. This is a season and it will pass. No one is expecting perfection from you!
Don’t compare yourself to someone else, especially someone who is in a different season than you.
Yes, that other mom may successfully juggling a job and family, while you’re struggling to stay afloat just being at home. That other mom is not you. You are not her. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. We all cope in different ways with stress.
Relax your expectations.
Do what you need to do to survive. If it means using paper plates to save yourself time on dishes or turning on PBS for the kids so you can rest, do what you need to do. Cook a frozen pizza for dinner or eat leftovers. Your kids will survive eating peanut butter sandwiches and grapes several days in a row for lunch.
Remember that this time will come to an end, like it always does.
It may only be a matter of days or it may be a couple weeks, but eventually you will get out of this slump of yours. Until then, take it one day at a time and give yourself grace.
This is what I’ve learned! What do YOU do when you find yourself in a slump or in the midst of a particularly challenging time?